I am 29-year-old female. I have been seeing a guy for about six months. He is 29, as well. He is a great guy, and although we have not said that we are boyfriend and girlfriend, we have talked about dating exclusively. We have the same circle of friends, and we attend our friends' parties together. We see each other at least twice a week. I know he is going through a lot because he lost his job last year and barely got a new one about a month ago.

Here is my problem. I asked him how come he never texts me or calls me all the time and he says, just cause I don't text you or call you does not mean I am not thinking about you. I have so many things going on in my life right now, and I feel like I have nothing to offer you. I am interested in you, and I am not dating or talking to anybody else. I respect you, and if I didn't like you I would not want to hang out with you at all. I don't know what to do anymore.

The first thing you should do is take a step backward. This guy sounds pretty great. He's spoken openly to you. He likes you, but he fears he has little to offer. He's reeling from a job loss, and the fact that he's making quite a bit less than he once did. I admire his honesty. At this point, I would give him a little time. I'd also give him space. I'd let him make the next move. I wouldn't ask him when he thinks he'll be ready to make that move.

He's spoken openly to you, and that matters. In a situation like this, too much pushing can make him feel even more inadequate. Let him breathe. After a while, if it becomes apparent that he's not going to make it, I would let him go. But right now, enjoy his company. See how it goes. The job loss, the lower income, and the pressure he feels are real, but they do not automatically mean he is pulling away for the wrong reasons.